Hugs VS Space
When I was a child, hugs were not frequent, if ever, given in our family, but we had no doubt of parental love and affection. I remember family from Missouri visiting, and as they left, the adults exchanged hugs along with advice to drive carefully. From my youthful point of view, hugs were too personal to exchange in public Just don’t hug me—you will invade my space. This attitude I harbored for years. When I came or left, it was not with any demonstrative fan fair of a hug. Stay out of my space!
As a mature (very mature) adult, I still treasure my space, but my general attitude has changed. Now, I’m told, hugs help heal disputes, comfort people with problems such as loneliness and disappointment, give encouragement, and demonstrate love and affection.
Well, I’m not too free with hugs (I don’t want to invade your space), but I do try to remember to hug those who need a hug and say “I love you” to my family when they come to visit or when they leave. They have no problem in imitating this very nice exchange of space invading. It is wonderful that as you grow older, you can share your space with a welcome hug and an “I love you.”
Ardath Kusek © 2008
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